In my last session with my t, we spent most of the time talking about our relationship because of a small rupture that occurred and my desire to detach because of the hurt I was feeling. In our discussion, he told me that he believes healing comes only through the relationship and the connection that comes through it. For me, and my history, I believe that to be true. I know I have to learn to trust and feel safe in order to begin to look at my history. That said, I'm very lucky because my therapist gets me and is exceptionally gentle, empathetic, and accepting.