there was a time when i was doing much better with the depression side of things where i'd replace the eating coping mechanism with something more healthy (exercise, reading, even the smallest things) and when the urge to binge passed, I'd feel much better and it would kind of spiral into a positive cycle (as opposed to the negative eating cycle).

i'm not doing so well with depression now so i'm finding what i do is just face the feelings head-on rather than trying to stuff them back down with food. i own my binges, i guess. rather than beating myself up relentlessly, i'm trying to stick with the mantra "i screwed up one meal, it's just one meal, it's just one day, it won't affect the overall progress, back on track tomorrow!" also, just like one cupcake can lead to a whole day, a whole week of binging - one healthy choice can lead to the same if we allow it to. not easy... still in the beginning stages myself, but i've seen some improvement. definitely easier reasoned and said than done though... black and white thinking is the worst part. have you tried therapy? (i haven't but i know certain programs can help people with the black and white thinking)