hmm...

methinks thats when turning it into a bit of a game can help. a kind of a 'just lie there and let me have my wicked way with you and if you move you ain't gettin any!' kind of a game. that way you get as much foreplay as you want and the guy gets the hang of what kinds of things you like.

sometimes... it is about ignorance. othertimes... its about their not being bothered. if what they want is conditional on what you want (and you show them what you want) then its much more fun :-)