Yes Wendy, I read the entire book. I've never agreed with DBT - I got the book because I knew that my T was using it and I wanted to know what he was doing.

I dislike the exercises and the idea of "mindfulness" is not something I think I can achieve. I do know that it is very popular and alot of Ts use this approach.

Part of my "rules" is to do my homework exercises that he gives me and practice them........[sigh]

He does believe that it will help me, but it is also the approach he uses with all his clients.

I did tell him last week that if he is such a follower of her book, it is totally against the rules to just abandon a client - you are supposed to stay in touch at least once a week. His response was that he had to follow the hospital/clinic guidelines.

I think the biggest reason I am going is because he does know me so well, we have 3 years between us, and I'm alive because of him...........he thought that last part was no big deal - "you were alive when we started, and you still are".

I just want things the way they used to be, not with this wall between us, this distant formality.


Courage is fear that has said its prayers.
Dorothy Bernard