For me the best sex is with guys who can talk comfortably about sex before hand - and are comfy talking during sex. I don't mean "dirty talk" (that's a whole nuther thread!)...I mean that they bring their entire personality into the bedroom. Some guys just shut down emotionally during sex because they are so uncomfortable with intimacy. Heck - if we can't talk about sex...we aren't ready to have it....imo.

Some of the best sex I ever had included hysterical laughter!

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