Hi there,

Need to share..

I've suffered from chronic blushing since my early teens and in the past couple of weeks, the problem has reared its ugly head again.. I think it has to do with shame from early childhood when I wasn't accepted/loved by my parents.

My therapist says shame is the only emotion that is completely unnecessary as it holds no informative value (the message 'I'm bad' is simply not true, ever). I get this and would so like to be able to let go of the shame! However.. I also feel it has saved me, in a way, over the years.. Believing I'm bad has meant I've told myself to hide, not show people who I truly am, my true colours.. Thus no one has been able to hurt me, either, not been able to get to me as they've never really seen me..

The thing is, this can't be necessary anymore! I do feel we're supposed to be seen, we're supposed to show ourselves. If someone doesn't accept/love us for who we are, so what - we'll move onto the next person, and maybe the next one until we find the ones that do..

I guess I need to hear that it's safe to show myself, that I'm good and that most people won't be like my parents but will actually be good and want what's best for everyone - and the ones who don't do not matter!