i feel very sorry for her.love her at any cost.try hard to make her feel that u really care.i dont understand totally how difficult it is for you.i dont have a kid.but,i know exactly how it feels to be neglected.after all she is too small.love is all that she needs.she need that in plenty from her mom.no else can replace you in her life.it hurts like hell when her love is neglected.please dont print images of self hatred in her mind.try hard to love her like she feels wanted..at any cost i would say..i can feel her pain