Anything that gets in the way of your life together IS A PROBLEM!!!!

I can also tell you from personal experience that things like that don't get better over time....they only wear on the relationship & end up making it worse.

While saying that, I also don't believe that there is anything that YOU can personally do other than encourage him to get professional help & to take the meds that do help.

I was in a marriage with a guy who had serious problems....I saw the red flags before I got married but chose to ignore them thinking as others that he would mature (grow up) as the years went by......

He was actually Dx'ed with adult ADD....but pdoc said there was something else going on.....I have since discovered what that something else is & it goes with ADD quite often.....but after 25 years of living with him....I started getting more & more angry at his behaviors & by the time it hit 33 years.....I had already attempted suicide so many times as there was no other way for me to escape the marriage....I didn't understand this was what was happening at that time either....thought it was JUST the loss of my career....but after leaving him finally 7 years ago....I am finally able to start putting the pieces together & understanding why the marriage failed so miserably & why his behavior was such a serious problem.

If there are problems you are having & he's not getting the help that he really needs....I would definitely NOT get married unless things bet better resolved. Don't jump into something that will end up making you so very miserable over the years.....it only builds up, it doesn't get better without professional help....& even then sometimes change isn't possible depending on what other underlying problems they REALLY have.