I want to know if someone here had the similar experiences. Your partner dumps you for someone else in very brutal way and your confidence is dead. Now you feel angry because your ex has new relationship already, while you dont. And you try to find somebody and you fail dozens of times. And you start to hate yourself because you are not attractive to anyone you like.
I just realized that all my lifestyle, all my personality, all my behavior, the entire social image of myself consists of things that all the girls hate and despise. Doesnt matter how many dates i will set with girls i like, every one of them would reject me. Also, i want to find if not better, but at least no worst person than my ex in terms of intelligence and appearance, she was smart and good looking. So, these kind of girls have variety of other boys trying to seduce them and i have no chance to compete with them.
I have been and will continue working on improving myself, but this probably would take many-many years until the result will be visible. Until that distant and far-away moment, how can i erase this pressure of desire to find somebody new to share my life with and have sexual relations and stop thinking about my ex having all kinds of intimacy and sex?