For what it is worth, I found the second therapist I see through referrals from a therapist seen by someone quite close to me. The referring therapist even called to talk to me to make sure she had my requirements clear in what I was looking for and then she called me back with the names and numbers of four 4 to try. The 4 I called had no (or indicated they had no - they are wily) idea who had referred me nor would they (at least 3 said this -one asked who had given the referral) knowledge of, desire to look for, or tell the referring therapist I had contacted them. I don't think one need worry if you try to get a referral for someone, that it somehow makes you responsible for ensuring the person follows up with the info you got for them. I would very much have not like it had I felt obligated just because of being given the names of some to try.