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Old Jan 27, 2015, 01:30 AM
douvell douvell is offline
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Originally Posted by gaway1989 View Post
If you have a personality disorder, it's not OCD or love, it's splitting.

In fact, it's creepy kind of projection

"Borderline Personality Disorder: Splitting Countertransference

In this context, splitting refers to a primitive mechanism of defense characterized by a polarization of good feelings and bad feelings, of love and hate, of attachment and rejection. Splitting, archetypally imbedded in a patient's psychic structure, acts as a powerful unconscious force to protect against the ego's perception of dangerous anxiety and intense affects. Rather than providing real protection, splitting leads to destructive behavior and turmoil in patients' lives, and the often confused reactions manifested by those who try to help.
Some degree of splitting is an expectable part of early psychic development. We see it in young children who, early on, press us to tell them "Is it good?" or "Is it bad?" We hear their frustration when we answer, "Situations are not black or white; life is more complicated!" "Yes, I know all that," they say, "now tell me, is it good or is it bad?"

Subsequent developmental advances foster the ego's ability to accept paradoxical affects, and to synthesize and integrate good and bad, love and hate along with the associated affects. The need for a definite "yes" or "no" decreases, and multiple possibilities and variations on a theme become tolerable."

Remember = Please, don't stalk him or something like this. It's just projection!"

Take care,

G.
It's not it. I know what it's like when it happens. It's like I'm "stalking" to search for something that will hurt me.