If things don't add up or the person's speech/body language is incongruent, I'd suspect a liar. I don't think it's always easy to tell for sure and people can be a little strange in general. Doesn't necessarily mean a lie, but if you're unsure it's smart to think twice before putting yourself in a position where a lie could hurt you.
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Originally Posted by kim_johnson
Lots of people talk in an attempt to emotionally connect / resonate rather than talking in an attempt to communicate literal meanings.
Does that make sense?
I mean... Sometimes the point of conversations is 'blah blah blah made up stuff' and then the other person says 'blah blah blah oh yeah ME TOO!!!'
I find that I hear things I've said chopped around a little and spat right back at me... And I've felt like maybe people are taking the piss, at times... But I've come to the conclusion that mostly... People are trying to get me to think 'ME TOO!' In other words... People are trying to connect with me, the only way they know how.
I find this really hard because I'm... Contrary. I bond by having discussions about stuff where people say what they think and we bounce off each other and sometimes revise a bit towards agreement... But the whole thing of just fibbing your way along for the emotional resonance... Is alien to me... I really don't like it...
But, apparently, it is how much of the world works.
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Sometimes I get the impression that's what it's about (even met guys who'll lie about their taste in books in the age of Google), and I have to wonder... why? There's nothing inherently unlikable about other people that it should be necessary to create fake connection, at least not in my eyes.