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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
I think that what gets people's backs up against the wall about this thread is not that you are unable to bond or connect with your eldest, but that you can with your youngest.
In other words, the ability is there, its just being rationed.
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This. So much this.
Having difficulties bonding is something that can be worked around; it's not your fault that you just don't feel a bond.
But the oldest daughter is seeing love and caring given to her sister that isn't being given to her. That's what is going to do the damage. If one kid gets hugs and the other isn't....what other message is there for them to take except to learn that they don't deserve love? If the parent doesn't hug either child... then they can learn that it just isn't their parents' thing. But to see that their parent doesn't have any issues with hugging others but not them.....
(Yes, using hugging as an example. It's an easy thing to use to illustrate the points!)
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