Hi,

I'm divorcing my abusive spouse after 10 yrs of him beating down my self-esteem. I read that abusers prey on mentally ill and addicted people because they are easier to control. My husband was also 11 years older. I am in a support group for abuse victims and it has helped so much. I had red flags but thought I deserved to be treated that way and couldn't do better. IMO younger women you warn may just assume you want him to yourself, unfortunately.

This is what a therapist gave me that helped me see YES he is abusive.

The Duluth Model - Wheel Gallery