(((((((( AS )))))))))

What a THOUGHTFUL post. Thank you.

You said, "However, I have chosen to try to become a part of this community - with all its ups and downs (mine included) - and I, therefore, have a responsibility to participate in it as fully as possible."

Yes, and that's kind of what I was referring to. I doubt there exists a relationship (with frequent interaction) that doesn't have its ups and downs, doesn't wax and wane, doesn't have miscommunication or bad days. I so get what you're saying, and it can be tough.

It's at those times that I think we grab hold of the "base" we create for ourselves here. The base would be knowing our expectations, combined with what is realistically possible.

I know my expectations here and sometimes have been blown out of the water with them. I retreat with the "emotional hand smack". It can sting. It's at that time I have to ask myself if my expectations are realistic. Then, if they are, are they realistic to expect 100% of the time. Alot of the time, I'll have a better understanding after having this internal dialogue. No, I can't expect every moment to be perfect, I can't expect no one to reflect their inner pain and anxieties on me in the moment and then ask myself if I've not done the same.

I think it's all part of being in a relationship.

I also think the heroic part is braving to give more of ourselves (even if it's nothing more than a mental acknowledgment or understanding...not relayed even) while we still go into what me might consider a "burning building" to give of ourselves when we see a clear need and have of ourselves to give. We have to have something to give first...

Thank you so much for the time and effort.

KD