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Originally Posted by Virginia1991
2). I need maternal figures in my life (lots of them apparently) so I am seeking people out who have those characteristics that I like so much in my t. Those being older, kind, nurturing women. Women who encourage an like my contact with them. Women who are ok with me texting and emailing everyday things and deeper difficult things about my past. I have found two at work and one through reiki.
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Yes, yes and yes.
The therapeutic relationship by necessity is limited, so seeking out support and friendships that aren't boundaried, one-sided, and "less than" is critical!
It's the sad truth about therapy - the dynamics are off such that we form attachments to these wonderful supportive caring people, but then we are treated like nuisances outside of our 50 minutes and wonder why we are incessantly longing, confused and in pain. it's like being starving and seeing a steak waved in front of our faces, then told we can have a small piece once a week, and then are craving meat for the rest of the week. And that's not even going into the quality of the steak - it could be some dried out, tough, tasteless piece of meat but because we haven't had it before we don't know the difference. Sometimes I think I'd rather be hungry and not know better. I went off on a tangent but you get my drift.