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Originally Posted by Orvel
I've managed to rationalize it  .
She wasn't playing with me... I was playing with her. In fact I've been unknowingly playing with girls my whole life. When I say "playing", I meant "eye contact/body language only flirting". I've always felt anxious around girls I like and I always went for eye contact. Never ever leading to anything else.
There was a girl I felt the need to do this with, but she didn't notice me. Two years later, she gave me a bunch of signals that she is single and that I can approach. Suddenly I wasn't interested in her.
During a New Year's Eve party at my friends apartment. I did this with a girl I wasn't attracted to (I didn't know why at that time, I just did it). A couple of days later she told my friend she is interested in me. He then told me ... twice. Both times I just ignored his words.
It's as if I am doing this because I enjoy it, but I am scared of going forward. Whenever a girl showed me she is interested, I've always managed to find a reason why us being together is not possible. Me being not good enough is the biggest reason.
Edit: Now I feel fine. I realize that I also have a certain power over other people (I've always felt like they have all the power over me). |
I don't think having power over someone is fine. What you have to do is having power over yourself. I mean, better your confidence, your self-steem, improve your social ability, use your good qualities to make yourself and others happy.
I understand what you say about playing with girls. I guess it's like a child who is learning through games, experimenting how adults react to him/her when (s)he acts in a certain way. It's normal bc you are very young. Don't blame yourself for this.
Do you think that if you see your coworker is into you, you are going to lose interest in her?