Nice reading about someone else in a similar situation even as I of course feel for you having to be in this situation as you are. Have you never tried to initiate a relationship? I havenīt myself.
Perhaps I have that lack of trust in people that I subconsiously just donīt even try finding someone. I canīt really see what a partner could give me really but thatīs because of my history, not because I donīt think there are no chance feeling happy within a relationship.
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Originally Posted by angelene
Reading this post was such a relief! I am also a 30+ virgin. My reasons differ, but here I am, coming out of the virgin closet. I've got a mixture of self-hate, trust issues and several other factors that lead me into this situation. (Also it's not a religious thing and I embrace all forms of sexuality.)
However, I experience a great deal of anxiety because of/about it. I worry what people will think if and/or when they find out. It's something I definitely need to address in therapy.
That being said, I'm getting the impression that you shouldn't worry about it too much due to your reasoning. It will happen when you're ready for it to happen.
I'm finding it tough to reflect on this and it also makes me sad. So I'm going to post this and see where this conversation goes...
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