It does sound somehat similar.

Both of my parents were married before they married each other. my father had 3 children from his other marriage, my mother didn't have any. My mother has told me she never wanted children. She doesn't like children. She thought that by having me, it would force my father to stay, but he didn't want any more children. Its kind of funny (well not funny ) because since my parents have divorced, my father has married someone close to my age, and he has a 1 year old with her (hes over 70).

I'm glad you posted this article. I've been thinking a lot about it lately. In therapy I've always (or the therapist has always) centered on more obvious abuse, and not the emotional aspect of my early childhood. I'm sure more than the very physical things have had an impact.

"sometimes the message we get is that it isn't okay to be authentic."

I relate to this. Being a "pleaser" I try to be what everyone else wants. Even now in my marriage now, I'm not always myself. I guess I need to learn to be myself, and I need to learn it is okay to disagree. I'm not really sure who I am yet though.