Hello Faking sane,

I know a long term marriage can become stale, each can take each other forgranted, the love can go and one can grow more than the other. Just because you've been married a long time, don't think you have to put up with it.

Time to make some real decisions. Do you want to work on the marriage? Is it worth working on it and saving? If so then you both need to sit down (without the drink) and discuss the way forward. Or is it time to move on? It sounds like this is the best option for you, no one deserves abuse.