Same thing here... He got mad at me for misplacing his bills and mail. But then when I don't organize them for him, he gets mad I don't clean. This was a year ago, and it got worse for us. I'm doing counseling right now, we live separately but we're beginning to rekindle our relationship. He seems anxious and stressed, but it isn't an excuse to be disrespectful. Find a calm time to ask to sit down and tell him how you're feeling and offer to listen as well