There are many ways to look at a situation.

No parent wants to hear 'the news' that their child is hurting or has a disorder that will affect them for the rest of their lives. Some parents feel responsible for passing along the genes, 'What did I do wrong', etc. Everyone looks for the 'why' or some thing/one to blame. Good parents feel the need to 'fix things' for their hurting child with a kiss, bandaid, dr visit and the like, but BP is something they can't fix. In some cases, from old fashioned attitudes, the parents are ashamed. In their way, they can feel that they have failed you as their child. There are some who disown their child, then they don't have to face it. [Reality, that is.] A lot are ignorant about MI, but that's no excuse.

Luckily, times are changing and some parents are able to accept, learn, support, and deal with it.

In my case, my father will always love me though he doesn't understand [How could he?] and my mother was worse off than I. Due to circumstances, I determined she to be toxic to my mental health, and 'mentally divorced her'. That was one of the best things I have ever done for myself. I was then able to deal with her as a person, not as a mother, as I never felt that motherly love. As an adult, when she would start her inappropriate behavior, I would just get up and leave. Eventually she learned and tried to be pleasant when I was around, knowing I would leave if she wasn't.

We never had that 'bond' but I was able to tolerate her to a certain extent... and that was fine with me. She couldn't 'push my buttons' any more, because I didn't allow it. Talk about freedom!

We're all in this together.