That really struck a chord with me! I'm so sad that she does that to you. I used to put myself down saying my trauma wasn't as bad as the others she saw and she gave me this whole speech of trauma and personal pain is no less for someone than it is for someone else. You can't judge the pain or who needs more of what or who is "worse off" that in her mind there is no "worse than" because pain is pain no matter the cause or how it's acted upon.

I hope you can work through these issues with her and continue to heal. Healing sucks but I'm continually told it's worth it. I'm glad you can talk about it with her and then ponder your thinkings do you ever take in your ponderings and insights back to her? ie: letting her know you do hurt and she shouldn't compare your hurt with another?

~EM