I have a post somewhere back in the entrails of this forum where I wrote about my 1st effort to stick my head out of the closet. I won't recount the whole experience here. But at the end of a small number of sessions of therapy, where I first talked about being trans, the therapist (& I use the term loosely) asked me which I would rather be male or female. Surprised as I recall, I muttered something like: it wouldn't matter. I just wished I could stop feeling like both & neither...