(((IG))) Stop blaming yourself.
Yes, there are two people in the relationship and yes, you are not innocent. BUT, nobody is innocent in life and this is supposed to be therapeutic relationship. That means it is her responsibility, as the therapist, to accept you where you are at. She needs to accept you anger and validate it and help you understand it so you can change your patterns and grow. Instead she is acting more like a classic codependent: how can you do this to me after all I have done for you?!

Therapy is supposed to be about examining our unhealthy patterns with an accepting, nonjudgemental other. She is essentially telling you that she doesn't care how you do it but you better cop on and grow up already because SHE doesn't want to deal with your problems anymore. That is so not what a therapist is supposed to do.

This has just far too many parallels with not only my situation with my previous T, but also with the stbx. (Reenactment much?) It was always my fault and I had to take all the blame. Don't kid yourself. This is emotional abuse. Run away.


Eta: please don't feel bad about triggering me. It's all in the processing. And anyway, it's my stuff and I chose to wade into the thread. If you can't stand the heat stay out of the kitchen and all that

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