I have no idea what my current T's orientation is. I know she has a kid (which I know means nothing) so I presume straight or possibly bi. Pretty sure she's not gay or it might have come up by now. She's tight lipped about her own life for the most part. I doubt I'll ever know what her own experience is.

My own Sexual Orientation was not an issue for me to bring up. From day one I have openly discussed my female partner with her (being one of the major reasons I'm in therapy). I don't even recall if I 'introduced' the topic or not. I think I just dove in at first session and gauged that it wasn't an issue.

My sexuality and experience however, I haven't got around to. I guess I have had other things to work through before this. I'm just haven't breached discussing sex in general yet (I think I'm almost there though— my T mentioned something in our last session that creaked the door open).

Though having someone with a common experience is helpful, I don't think it's absolutely necessary. Sex is sex. IMO, body parts may differ but the basic motivations, drives and needs are universal. Since the official debunking of "Gay as a illness" so many years ago, any professionally trained T worth their salt should know how to discuss it and empathize with someone despite their own sexual orientation or experiences.