First off, society doesn't have these fascist rules you are imagining exist based on JUST your brother's comments. Those rules have never existed & don't exist now.....but believing that they exist make it easier on what you already admit to being socially awkward. It gives you an excuse for not pushing your social awkwardness into action but you hide behind what you believe in your mind to be fascist rules closing doors for you when in reality it's your own social awkwardness that's closing the doors.

I lived 33 years with my H who I'm sure is on the autistic spectrum (the only thing that explaines 100% the problems that existed in the marriage) & he was forever making up excuses for his inability to do things. Excuses that in REAL life didn't exist.

I seriously think that you need to get into therapy & get help with what you think is being somewhere on the Autistic spectrum & with your social awkwardness & your whole life will change & doors will open that you are not capable of opening at this point in your life because you haven't had the professional support to learn how to open them.