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Originally Posted by missbella
I'm champion at fantasizing I'll repair relationships that can't be repaired. I've carried hope far past its expiration date. There are times when a relationship is destructive, when someone is so self-protected that they're rigidly defensive, getting them to understand my viewpoint is all but impossible. Getting what I want from them is impossible. In those instances, it's best to stop engaging and simply walk away.
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I agree with you. I don't expect her to see my point of view or to change, but I don't want to be silenced either. I want to state my issues, even if it is on the way out and just on paper rather than verbal in the same room.
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Originally Posted by sidestepper
Question number one; has she helped you in the areas you are working on? Ie the way you interact with others?
#2; are you emotionally reacting to hearing things you are not ready to face up to about your own actions?
#3; will this behavior be repeated with a new T?
What would happen if you wrote don't your feelings and did not go in to therapy with the intention of confronting but with an open mind to solving this issue and setting clear understandable boundaries? Ie how many times you may call or email between sessions.
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Oh god. I don't know! This is all stuff I was wondering at the start of this thread. But my gut says it is not resolvable anyway.
Just before I left, I said I was sorry for making her feel I was spurning her care (this was what made her terminate me, thinking I was thinking she was ****) because that genuinely was not what I meant by my message at all, though she did not want me to explain that so it went unsaid. So not being allowed to explain, I apologized. She said nothing, I asked could she forgive me, were we okay. We are not okay but she does forgive me because she knows me and knows I didn't mean to hurt her and she cares about me...and I just feel so confused.