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Originally Posted by licketysplit
I think you're going to do what you're going to do; however, if you could at least entertain the idea of not doing anything rash (like sending that detailed email to prevent yourself from going back), you might find strength in a blunt email with no details and be firm within yourself that you will not go back. This can be a true turning point for you, to abandon old ways of ending things by not burning a bridge.
I say this because I very much wanted to tell my previous therapist what I thought of her, but I realized that I would be giving her the gift of knowing what's on my mind. I wanted her to have the discomfort of wondering. It was a way to maintain my personal power and not let it leak away by trying to prove something to her.
It's just something to think about.
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Yes, my suspicion is that email would do nothing but "prove" to her (in her mind and way of thinking) that she's been right about you and this is just one more example of what she would deem as "abusive". (I'm not saying it is; I'm saying SHE will see it that way.)
Plus, if you do follow through with filing a grievance, this could work against your favor. Save it for the grievance papers. Save it for discussion with a competent therapist.