I didn't have a H with addictions but he had other serious problems that destroyed the marriage. Foolishly I didn't leave when I had my career to take care of myself with & then ended up trapped in the marriage because of financial issues by the time I realized I needed out......depression & even suicide attempts came as I was desperate to leave. I lived like that for 13 years before I was finally able to escape. It was the best thing I ever did & living alone was no different than the unhappy living alone I was doing while existing in under the same roof.

If you feel that you have come to the end of the marriage & he's refusing to get the help he needs to make the marriage work.....then you need to end it. There is no reason to live in misery.

I don't take marriage vows lightly....but I also don't take the abuse lightly that comes from an addictive H who refuses to get the help to make the marriage work & make the changes that he needs to make.