Well I've only had one therapist. I was lucky in that I didn't have to search for one. One of my closest friends IRL is a psychologist. Funny, she and I had known each other for years and yet I was still taken aback when she asked me if I had ever considered therapy for myself (this when I was going through a particularly hard breakup). I'd just never thought of it at all -- I knew I really respected what she did, but it had never occurred to me that therapy would be useful for me. But then she said that if I ever wanted a therapist that she could pick one for me. I thought about it for a while and finally sent her a note saying I wanted to try it. I specified that my therapist would have to be male (I was much more comfortable with the idea of talking with a male). She asked me whether I wanted someone close to my age or older. I wasn't sure at all. I finally said I might have a slight preference for someone a little older but that I was more interested in just trying whoever she picked. The guy she picked is probably in his late 50s, maybe a little older (all I know for sure is that he isn't 65 yet because he once mentioned that he wasn't). I wasn't sure at all what to expect from therapy and knew nothing about forming a bond, etc. And yet he was perfect for me from the first day. I knew (and have always known) that he was exactly the right therapist. Guess my friend knows what she's talking about....

Sidony