I understand this feeling. I've often been mute when faced with abuse or rudeness and have many regrets about moments gone by.

But I've also spoken up, sometimes even in the moment, and learned the hard way of its consequences. So I weigh what I'd get out of speaking up and do my best to be strategic.

I assume that you've been far from the stoic soldier through this drama. You've expressed your unhappiness? Your unhappiness is no surprise to her?

I experienced that if a therapist lacks the Stuff to right a troubled relationship, it's unlikely she's open to learning from a client. Attempts only result in a frustrating stalemate that's all about training the therapist and not moving life forward.

You said you want to file a complaint? You'll have plenty to say then. Now, I think, you're best off keeping your cards close to your chest, holding control and not giving anything away the therapist can twist. My complaint process was a clash of the titans, with the therapist telling lies and twisting my words.

It's strategy.