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Originally Posted by Jaybird57
I'm glad you called the emergency counseling center, IG, and that they were able to let you know that they will get you ASAP. Here's hoping that they have an opening quickly! You deserve the support.
I was going to comment yet again on whether or not to send the lengthier email  but then, after reading your responses, I realized that you have probably already made your decision and acted on it. I totally understand and I hope that letting her know how she made you feel soothes some of the hurt!
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Thank you! Yeah, I do hope they can slot me in sometime over the next week. Would be helpful and they are also so cheeeeep!!! Only £12! TWELVE POUNDS!! Because they are a charity
And if I said I wasn't working at present they would have a sliding scale and it would be like £6! Wtf! My jaw hit the floor. Twelve quid is nothing. Twelve pounds is a bottle of reasonable wine, not a counselling session.
No I have not sent the email yet - wanted to write it, sleep on it, and take my time.
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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
She is the first person that I have had this pattern with, where I have not lost my temper and torn strips off them. I didn't think I was going in there to do that today- I really wanted to stay in control, and be assertive, but not lash out and spit out what I think very savagely. I went too far the other way, and dissolved. Somebody hand me a grip.
IG, this^ is what made me think that your usual pattern of ending relationships is to burn them up. So I was thinking to be able to handle a break-up completely differently might be empowering. My fear is that the emotional backlash from going out "in a blaze of glory" may not be the elation and satisfaction you anticipate, but rather a feeling of self-hatred or defeat. Understand, I don't think she can be of help to you anymore; but I want you to walk away feeling strong, not destabilized.
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Yes, I totally see how it looks like I always burn bridges, but as I say, I always try to leave room for further communication at some point in the future no matter how bitter the row.
In reality that has worked out quite well. My old best friend and I are talking after a mahoosive horrible row (where we both were very much in the wrong - my borderline meeting her bipolar on a bad day for us both) and no contact for a year.
With exes, again no matter how agonizing the rows and ending, I think saying what was really on my mind allowed me to move on from them properly. When I think of my two big exes, there is nothing I wish I had said at the time. I said everything I felt at the time.
I have never been one for maintaining a dignified silence, or retaining an air of mystery
However, maybe I would move on much quicker if I keep it minimal in this instance. I just don't know. I'm not trying to be stupid, I really do not know which is best for me in this particular case.