i was married 27 years when our relationship hit trouble my ex could only write things on bits of paper and give it me 'i know it was her way off communicating ,but after 27 years it was sad and i couldn't stand it anymore,i am the one with an illness yet i had to do all the running ,one word -----talk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if you can't ,then what sort off a relationship is it? sorry for being so directive ,but lack of communication ended my marriage and nearly finished me off good luck