genocya, i know how it is when your mind is telling yourself how shameful something is. We can work ourselves up so much. We can't imagine any future beyond the worse case scenario so we're stumped.

But maybe just start by asking yourself, 'what if I tell him ... and it's okay?'

Just start there. Envision that you're T is fine with it. Envsion that the conversation goes well and you might even feel better for it.

Just ask yourself, 'What if everything is fine? What if I'm okay?'