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I understand. Want to know/don't want to know.

I guess it's a good example of why they hesitate to self-disclose.

"Gill and Kohut strongly imply that the therapist who answers personal questions robs the client of an opportunity to explore the feelings and fantasies that gave rise to the question" (Between Therapist and Client, Michael Kahn)

or, "A question aswered is a fantasy lost" (Freud I think)

Now, I am not an asker, but I do take clues and cues and wonder. Knowing that she has a grown, independent daughter from the picture on her desk to her mentioning her daughter finding an apartment in NYC via Craig'sList, it influences me--middle aged, lost, alone, unsure, insecure, floundering....

Her room has shelves of toys. A portion of her clients are kids.

Both the picture of the daughter and the shelves full of toys are too much reality. Reminders that it is just oo late for some things.

Weird, I know.