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Originally Posted by The Skeezyks
As far as the question of attraction to women, trans women, & trans men goes, you know, what the LGBTQ community is trying to move toward is a society where each person is just themselves. We're not trans, or bi, or any other label. So my thought would be don't worry about if a particular person is gay or bi, or trans, or whatever, just focus on each person you get to know as an individual & see how the two of you "click". At some point, the right person will come along. And at that point what difference does it make? This kind of openness is to be celebrated. And you are to be celebrated for your openness!   |
I actually think I have to disagree with this; I think that, while the LGBTQ community has made great strides toward reducing being identified by our labels, we still find it incredibly important for our identities to be used and acknowledged. For example, a gay man who doesn't want to be known as "the gay guy" in a group of people but who absolutely wants his peers to understand that he is gay because trying to redact that label from him strips away his experiences as a gay person. He wouldn't want to be compared to a straight guy and told, "There's no difference between you! You're both the same!" because they aren't. The straight man has never experienced homophobia, has never been oppressed for being gay, has never felt the pain of being excluded by your family or community for that reason. It's not the exact same, but I can compare it to color-blind racism. People who say, "I don't see color!" are completely invalidating the experiences that people of color have had specifically because they're people of color. I really hope that makes sense.