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Originally Posted by The Skeezyks
Could you not just go ahead & send the letter now?  |
I was thinking of it. Turns out my friend just got back to me. She said she contacted my ex, but my ex is hesitant and taking time to think about if she wants the letter sent to her or not. If she does then I'm going to give it to my friend for her. We'll see.
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Originally Posted by emory_
I actually think I have to disagree with this; I think that, while the LGBTQ community has made great strides toward reducing being identified by our labels, we still find it incredibly important for our identities to be used and acknowledged. For example, a gay man who doesn't want to be known as "the gay guy" in a group of people but who absolutely wants his peers to understand that he is gay because trying to redact that label from him strips away his experiences as a gay person. He wouldn't want to be compared to a straight guy and told, "There's no difference between you! You're both the same!" because they aren't. The straight man has never experienced homophobia, has never been oppressed for being gay, has never felt the pain of being excluded by your family or community for that reason. It's not the exact same, but I can compare it to color-blind racism. People who say, "I don't see color!" are completely invalidating the experiences that people of color have had specifically because they're people of color. I really hope that makes sense.
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I think that labels are a necessary evil. If I'm getting what you're saying, it's so that we can understand people. Although I would prefer if labels did not exist, it would certainly be very hard-if not impossible- to find someone who is alike OR different from you. Or even in other unrealted cases...say you need a doctor...you can't find a doctor without the label "doctor." So I guess if you're LGBT+ and you wanna find someone that's like you, the label is needed. Other than that, we are all just humans and we should love who we want to love. I've always labeled myself as a gay woman, so that's why I am not confused as my recent feelings aren't 100% in line with my identity...which could maybe be described as a gay woman who is a bit queer too? XD