Well ...this is an interesting post indeed.

Thinking of Claire's post--- Well that is close to how I would envision it without notice...

So ... First I would need ALOT of notice... and that would then cause anxiety.

I think I would like to be the kind of person I envision him to be.... but I am not... and so that could be disappointing as I am not sure he would have fun...for a whole weekend. Maybe a meal or a nice evening.

I do wonder as when we are in therapy we show ourselves in a concentrated bundle (or whatever) of therapeutic need or experience. Would that be off limits? Would he be able to share his personal life with me? Good .... fantasy .. but reality ---YIKES... hands over ears and eyes... I do not wish to know this about him. And wow... as truthful as I like to think I am in therapy ... there are certainly things here that have not made it in to that room that would be pulled in as a result and hey...I might not be ready to talk about THAT OR even THAT.

Seriously... my first pdoc and I got together for lunch a few times a year (after a couple years out) and that was great and it was good to see him but the therapy was over... but slipped in..on my part in short little ways. I am glad we did it... and we knew each other over the years better than this current T but it was kinda awkward at times at least when I was feeling needy.