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Old Jan 30, 2015, 01:56 AM
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Originally Posted by Crescent Moon View Post
What is undesirable for you about 'secure'? And I guess maybe it depends whether we're talking about therapist or partner?

For me, it took a long time to get to a secure attachment with my therapist and I'd have to say that for me it was a huge relief, and almost magical to first experience a genuine secure attachment. I don't have a romantic partner at the moment to compare it to
If it is good for someone else, then fine. It would not be something for me to have as a goal or ideal, but if anyone else finds it so for themselves, it is okay with me for them.

It also sounds a bit Three Bears-ish.
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