Terrific question! Wow..This really gives me something to think about..

I don't think intellectual reasoning would help to understand what reactions are and aren't natural. It may help to observe how others whom you consider relatively healthy interact with each other just to get some ideas..But overall, it's going to be a very long process of attuning and listening to your body, to our basic senses. Our body knows what is and isn't acceptable. We just can't hear its messages often because we've been trained to dismiss them, to disconnect from our basic senses and to distrust them. Learning how to trust your body wisdom could be scary and can bring a considerable degree of pain. But it also brings liberation..This was my way of going back to "normal"..