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Originally Posted by learning2bme
I also am a partner of a sex addict, there are so many issues and questions and struggles it's hard to know where to even start. For me it's kind of a daily self-check: "how am I feeling about this today?" kind of thing.
I've noticed comments in other threads that seem to be pretty harsh, which seems to me like the exact thing we don't need!
Thank you for taking the initiative here!
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The daily self checking can get pretty exhausting for me. My girlfriend and I just went through a two week break to get some distance and perspective. I really just needed some time to myself, to not be worrying all the time. Now we've been talking for two days again, and all the wonderful happy living emotions have come flooding back in. Aswell as the worry.
So this is my latest struggle. We're going to have a talk soon about boundaries -- what things I'm comfortable with her ding and what things I'm not. But I'm boy really entirely sure how to approach it.
I don't want to tell her what she can and can't do -- that'll push her away. But I don't also want to be giving her ultimatums, because that's not healthy either. I don't want to be like "do this, or else". I don't want to threaten her with break up, and I don't want to break up... But I also don't want to be taken for granted, and I'm tired of having my heart broken.
It's such an ugly mess of an issue.