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Originally Posted by emwell2
I've been with the same therapist for a very long time. She is not my first. I've been thinking about asking her a couple questions of a personal nature. Is it ever appropriate to ask a therapist personal questions???? She has shared some personal information with me, such as why she got rid of her cat and that she uses a CPAP machine. But these subjects came up during regular conversation and had to do with what I was talking about.
I would like to ask her two things 1) Are you married???? 2) Are you sober????The married thing isn't really important, but being sober is.
Has anyone here ever asked their therapist personal questions???? If yes, did you get an honest answer???? Did the answer affect your treatment in any way???? Does it really matter????
I've been considering asking her these things for quite some time now. Asking would get the questions out of my head. I'm not even sure if I care about the answers.
Thank you in advance for your responses.
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it really depends on the therapist. in my first year with my T I probably could have asked her most anything. now, i can't ask her ANYTHING without creating a fight. like...nothing. We were talking the other day about my going back to school and what I should major in, and I asked what she had gotten her masters in and she responded "well don't you know already" and I said if I remembered I wouldnt be asking you now, so what did you get it in? and she again deflected and the conversation spun into something ugly and I really don't understand why she feels the need to do it, because it causes so many problems and the questions are innocent/related to discussion.
So- it depends on your t and your relationship.