(((((((((( Be and Perna ))))))))

Thank you so much for the replies and ideas.

You know, my brother isn't trying to be mean. He and me neice makes sure Mom has extra TP, paper towels, etc. They take her out to eat every Sunday. If she needs extra groceries, all she has to do is ask.

My neice does Mom's meds. It's very complicated and Steph has it down pat.

But since Mom came home from the nursing home, I'm the one who has helped her bathe or wash clothes or any of those kinds of things.

Mom is scaring me. She looked so bad yesterday She is trying so hard to hold on until the member of our family in Iraq comes home so she can see him again. She told him the other day that she might not be here then.

She was so mean to me. She has betrayed me in so many ways and took away the one person in my life that I loved the very most. She did it on purpose and didn't give a darn that she was part and parcel to my breakdown.

But now, she's a fluffy little old lady. She is not trying to hurt anyone, and in her own way, she is trying to make up for what she did to me.

I want her to be comfortable. I want her to be safe. I did help take care of my former MIL, but she was able to move more than Mom. I'm so afraid Mom is going to fall and if she breaks something, that will be it.

Does anyone know if a cast iron bathtub can be cut with a torch or something like that? When they built the house, they must have put the bathtub in and then built the walls.

I also thought about putting the chair long wise in the tub and helping Mom sit on it. I could hold the wand and hopefully I wouldn't drown the bathroom. I'm embarrassed, Mom's embarrassed and I just don't know what to do.

When I helped her I found bruises all over her spine, hip and arm. She had fallen and was afraid to tell one of us. Nothing was broken, thank God.

Also, does anyone know if Medicare will help with hearing aids? Mom can't hear well at all and it's causing horrible communication problems.

Thank you so much for reading this. I'm trying so hard not to cry. I just don't know how to fix this.

Jan