I think it´s ok to ask those questions even if I wondered a little about the question about if she´s sober. Have you noticed something that tells you she isn´t? Or does this have to do with the therapy per se? I mean a therapy addressing addictions in some way? I understand if you don´t want to answer that.

The thing about her being married or not, if you don´t want to ask her or she won´t answer you, perhaps there are some kind of websites where you can look her up? In my country there are, you can easily check up on people by entering their first name and surname and the name of the town they live in. When you find your T (or anyone else) you can easily see if there is someone else at that same address. If that happens to be a male at your T:s age approximately it´s likely her husband or at least a male partner.

Sometimes I check those things just out of curiosity and sometimes I feel it´s like prying into the T:s life. It depends.