This thread makes me wonder why I don't ask my T a few personal questions, or make causal conversation with her at all for that matter. I think there's something about her approach that is very guarded, if that's the right word. I ask 'how are you' and she says, "fine." That's it. She doesn't offer forth much. I just assumed there are boundaries to be minded there.

However, in our first interview I think I mentioned my disillusionment with a former T who seemed to offer to much about her own issues in therapy. I didn't like that. Maybe My T is responding to that and keeping her side blank to allow room for me to guide the whole session. Our sessions have brought up the occasional mention of her daughter, in relation to what I'm experiencing with my Mom — and that's about it.

Your question intrigues me though. I might like to examine my own conversation skills, or lack thereof. Is this a dynamic I set up or did it happen that way by her design? I don't know. She might be forthcoming if I just asked. I've often thought about practicing some conversations with her because I'm so introverted. Eye Contact, listening, and conversation skills are things I'd like to improve upon. etc.

I've asked myself it it matters that she's married, divorced or what not. I think I project an image of 'single mom' onto her. That's my care-taking stuff. I might be a slight bit disillusioned if she were married or dating someone - but I'd get over it.

I don't need her to be someone I envision to learn what I need to learn from her.