Well I don't know about IG, but I'd be confused by a lot of the feedback here. In one breath she's being told to take stock of her feelings, terminate with her therapist and take control of the situation. In the next, she's being warned not to 'burn bridges'.

Some bridges need to be torched. Ones that lead to sloppy manipulative so called therapists should be burned until there's not a cinder left.

All that really matters is that you, IG, do what you need to do for yourself. To be honest, you don't really need 7 -8 pages of forum feedback to make this decision. You know what to do. So do it, and then find a therapist worthy of you.

Oh and PS, I don't want to throw another spanner in the works but the relationship you've described with your therapist up until this point does not comprise love. Love does not leave you anxious, desperate, clinging, confused and afraid. Ever.

When someone loves you, you will feel comforted, secure and safe. What you had with your therapist was dysfunctional attachment clothed in the trappings of care.