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Originally Posted by peaceseeker63
I am not quite sure why you felt the need to respond to this thread. You came across very harshly and judgmental and did not add anything substantial, or helpful, to the conversation. Perhaps you've been cheated on? And then, after telling the Op you "cannot have much respect" for her, you give her a hug. Bizarre!
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I'm inclined to agree with you. When one has nothing nice to say, it's often better not to say anything at all.
About not having respect and giving a hug, I guess it's the behavior (cheating) that I don't respect, not the person (original poster). So, I should have phrased that differently too. I gave a hug because, despite my stance on the matter, I do feel sorry for the poster's situation, and having been through a very tough life myself, I do feel empathy for others in pain. It's ironic, I know, so I understand your confusion, but that's just the way I felt.
Re-reading my response, I agree that I came across as judgmental and insensitive. You're right that it was not a constructive or helpful response to the original poster.
Yes, I have been cheated on before, but it wasn't a huge factor in my response. It's just a principle thing for me.
I did feel the need to respond, because the topic of cheating, in general, is something that I feel very strongly about. But, I agree that I should have phrased my response better or not responded at all.
Original poster: I sincerely apologize. I didn't mean to ruin your initial experience on this great forum. I will say no more on this thread.