I tend to think it's important to ask the questions, whatever they are, whether the T answers them or not. It opens up opportunities for self-reflection, as well as helps the T to know who we are and how we think. My T was pretty open; a family photo in his office, so no mystery there. He almost never offered information, but I don't ever remember him not answering a direct question. I didn't struggle with issues of trust, so never felt compelled to ask factual questions as a way of knowing him better; I felt I knew him well from our interactions. But I would often ask him specifics about how he parented his kids, as a way of assessing how common or uncommon my memories were. Those questions also helped me to experience him as a father which was important to me.