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Old Jan 31, 2015, 05:57 AM
Ocean5 Ocean5 is offline
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Faced with a similar issue when finding a therapist. I wanted to feel comfortable, but my issues weren't sexual (extreme childhood trauma) yet didn't want to be judged (gay male.)

I just wanted help... If it helps I found a therapists/doc on directory of PsychologyToday to find one that was gay friendly.

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Originally Posted by stopdog View Post
I made sure in the initial phone call to inquire if they had any problem with someone who is gay and they both indicated they did not.
I like Stopdog's approach. I had to know how therapist/psychiatrist felt about a certain mental health issue (non-sexual, yet stigmatized and misunderstood.) I asked her in first meeting about her thoughts, and followed-up for clarification that day in an e-mail (1st session ever with therapist/doc)

My insights...

If I thought my therapist was judging me for being gay, or anything else, I would have shut-down --- never gone back. But even when I misunderstood her comments 1st meeting (therapist are just as human as we are... human & imperfect..) At same time I realized my condition caused me to misjudge things. I thought she was talking negative like she didn't believe, but in reality she was offering much support and acknowledgment.

btw, I'm a gay male , and didn't see a guy doctor/therapist because I hate being hit on, or flirted with.

Seriously a good therapist, or psychiatrist, should be focused on helping you. Not on their own personal beliefs..

Trust you're instincts.

Last edited by Ocean5; Jan 31, 2015 at 06:24 AM.